We have created this wording & etiquette guide to help you when you aren’t sure what to say or what each card is meant for. Always remember, it’s your day and you can have a little fun with your wording when appropriate. If you have any questions at all, just ask, we are here to help.




SAVE THE DATE 


WHEN TO SEND?
For destination weddings: Aim to send your Save the Dates out 6 - 8 months prior to your date to allow your guests time to make travel arrangements.  For Local weddings: save the dates are often sent 4 - 5 months before.

WORDING EXAMPLES

Please save the date
to celebrate the marriage of
Joan Evelyn Marshall
and
Adam James Walker
Saturday, June 22, 2014
Cumberland Island, Georgia
Invitation to follow


Shelley & Patrick 
Are getting Married
save the date
August 18, 2014
Kingsville, Missouri
Formal Invitation to follow
www.shelleyandpat.com


Mark your calendars!
Randy & Andrea
are getting hitched!
August 28, 2013
Grand Isle, Vermont
Invitation to follow
www.joan&adam.com


Save the Date!
Christine Pearson 

Spencer Mason
are getting married 
May 14th, 2014   
Boston, Massachusetts
Invitation to follow


He asked ... she said Yes!  
Kaitlyn & Spencer 
will tie the knot!
April 28th, 2014
Houston, Texas
Invitation to follow




WEDDING INVITATIONS


WHEN TO SEND?
For local weddings, aim to send out your invitations 8-10 weeks before your wedding. For destination weddings, aim at sending them 12 weeks in advance.

GUIDELINES

  • Typically the person who is hosting the wedding would go first, weather it be the brides parents, the grooms parents or both sets.
  • The use of “request the pleasure of your company“ is used when the ceremony is located at a secular venue while “request the honor of your presence” is used when the ceremony is located at a Religious Venue
  • Dates and Times on your invitations are traditionally spelled out however for a more modern look you may choose to use numbers. I.E. Saturday, the twenty-second of February, Two Thousand Fourteen or Saturday 02.22.14. In regards to the time, note that between 12 noon and 5:30 pm is considered the afternoon and any from 6:00 pm or later would be considered the evening.  If the time falls on a half hour the proper way to word it would be "half after four o'clock."
  • When referencing an address be sure to spell out all abbreviations (Street, Road, Avenue, Crescent etc.), as well as City, State and County names. Postal/Zip codes should not be listed.
WORDING EXAMPLES

Casual Invitation wording
Together with their families
camille rose 
and 
andrew meyers
invite you to the celebration of their marriage 
Saturday, May 14th, 2013, 5pm
The Ivy Room of Tree Studios
12 East Ohio Street Chicago, Illinois
Merriment to follow

Casual Invitation wording
He asked + she said yes!
camille rose 
and 
andrew meyers
Are getting married and they ask you to join them
Saturday, May 14th, 2013 @ 4pm
The Ivy Room of Tree Studios
12 East Ohio Street Chicago, Illinois
Dinner & Dancing to follow


When the bride's parents sponsor the wedding:
Mr. and Mrs. Jacob Rivera 
request the pleasure of your company
at the marriage of their daughter 
Christie Rivera 
to 
Spencer Kelley 
Saturday, the twenty-second of February 
Two Thousand Fourteen
at four o'clock in the afternoon 
The Ivy Room of Tree Studios
12 East Ohio Street Chicago, Illinois
Reception to follow


When the Brides Divorced and remarried parents sponsor:
Ms. Junie Morales 
Mr. and Mrs. Jacob Rivera 
request the pleasure of your company
at the marriage of their daughter 
Christie Rivera 
to 
Spencer Kelley 
Saturday, the twenty-second of February 
Two Thousand Fourteen
at four o'clock in the afternoon 
The Ivy Room of Tree Studios
12 East Ohio Street Chicago, Illinois
Reception to follow


Including the Grooms parents as a sponsor:
Mr. and Mrs. Bradley Hunter
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Odette Claire
to
Oliver Temple
son of Mr. and Mrs. Robert Temple
Saturday, the twenty-third of June
two thousand and twelve
at half-past four o'clock
The Presidio Interfaith Chapel
130 Fisher Loop
San Francisco, California 


When both the bride and groom's parents sponsor the wedding:
Mr. and Mrs. Robert Michael Richards 
and 
Mr. and Mrs. James Scott O’neil 
request the honor of your presence 
at the marriage of their children 
Miss Sharon Richards
to 
Mr. Jackson O'neill 
Saturday, August 11th, 2013 at 5 o’clock pm 
The Presidio Interfaith Chapel
130 Fisher Loop
San Francisco, California 


When both the bride and groom's parents sponsor the wedding and there is a divorced set:
Ms. Elaine Robbins
Mr. Bradley Benson
request the pleasure of your company
at the marriage of their daughter
Marissa Benson
to
Graham Cabrera
Saturday, the twenty-seventh of April
two thousand and thirteen
at three o’clock in the afternoon
Arts Incubator Event Loft
115 West 18th Street Kansas City, Missouri
Merriment to follow

When both parents sponsor and there is a Widowed parents:
Mrs. Martha Bowen and
Mr. and Mrs. Arthur Manning
request the pleasure of your company
at the marriage of their children
Kaitlyn Bowen
daughter of Mrs. Bowen and the late Christian Bowen
and
Spencer Manning
Saturday, the sixteenth of March
two thousand thirteen
at half past three in the afternoon
Arts Incubator Event Loft
115 W. 18th Street
Kansas, Missouri
Dinner and dancing to follow




RESPONSE CARD


GUIDELINES

  • We suggest to set a response date that is about 4 weeks out from your wedding date to provide your venue & caterers with an approximate headcount 
  • R.S.V.P. non return - This can be placed on the Invitation in the lower left corner where you can also include the email address or website to respond. I.E “ RSVP and more details: www.yourweddingwebsite.com"
  • If using a Separate RSVP Card: You may choose to include a smaller RSVP card with your invitations to get an accurate headcount and meal preferences. Also be sure to include a self-addressed and stamped return envelope for easy returns from your guests. All Love vs Design RSVP card orders include free blank envelopes. 

WORDING EXAMPLES

We look forward to celebrating with you. 
The favor of reply is requested by June 16, 2014 
Name(s) ___________________________ 
____ can’t wait!  _____ number attending
 
Please initials your choice:
____Poultry ____Fish  ____Vegetarian
_____ will be there in spirit 


We have reserved two seats in your honor. 
Kindly respond on or before June 16, 2014 
M___________________________ 
{ } Accept with pleasure 
{ } Decline with regret 


We look forward to celebrating with you!
Please respond by the fifteenth of May
Name(s) ________________________
_____ happily accepts   _____ number attending
 _____sadly declines


Other fun & creative messages you can leave on your response cards:


Message/Advice to the bride and groom:
_______________________________


We promise to dance if you play:
_______________________________




INSERT CARDS

Insert cards are a great way to provide your guests with more information regarding the Reception location (If the ceremony and reception are held at the same venue, it is okay to place "Reception to follow" at the bottom of your invitation), directions/maps, accommodation information. 

Insert cards are also great for providing some of your guests to other related wedding events and schedules such as welcome dinners, rehearsal dinners and/or a post-wedding brunch




PROGRAMS 

Programs are a great way for you to let your guests know the different parts of your ceremony.  Key items to include would be:  The wedding party. the processional & service components such as songs and readings.  If you have a ceremony that your guests may not be too familiar with you, such as religious or cultural aspects, you may include an explanation of particular parts of your ceremony