Welcome to your next edition of Real Weddings! We are pleased to introduce to you, Nathan and Jennifer. After being friends since 5 years of age, they were finally able to call each other husband and wife on October 5th, 2012 in Burton, OH.
What was your highlight of the day?
There were so many highlights from the day that it is hard to choose just one. I would have to say though the fact of knowing that at the end of the day I was going home with Nathan and there was nothing to worry about was the most relieving feeling. We left the reception, looked at each other and both agreed that that was the best wedding we had ever been to because we are so blessed with incredible family and friends who genuinely care about us. The energy on the dance floor was such pure celebratory dancing and joy. I have never experienced anything like it!
Is there anything you would have liked to do differently?
There is not much of anything that we would have done differently. Our engagement was 6 months long, almost to the day, and during that time we delegated tasks to friends and family who offered to help. I think closer to the wedding day I would have asked for more help and shared my vision with more people so that when I was not present at a certain point others would know exactly what needed to be done. Nathan and I knew exactly what we wanted and found the most thrifty and creative ways to achieve that. We had a great circuit of friends with different connections and creative ideas and pulling from all of those sources made the planning and execution much easier. We had people we trusted completely to carry out our ideas and it was having those wonderful people that made it easier to pull ourselves away from the decorating or organizing. Giving trust over to others was the best thing I could have done.
Do you have any advice to couples that are planning their upcoming wedding?
My advice to those getting married is twofold. First of all, like I mentioned earlier, take people up on their offers to help. Don't just say thanks for the offer and ignore it, doing everything yourself. People offer to help because they want to, and when you truly give over your anxiety about every little detail being perfect you will relieve yourself of so much stress. It will be a beautiful wedding because of the act of love taking place between the two of you, not because of the trendy place settings or the wedding favors. Share your ideas with those closest to you, whether its your parents or bridal party or wedding planner. Sharing your vision with others will ensure that even when you are not present others will carry out the plans the way you want them. Second of all, don't worry about the little things. I know many brides and grooms are very detail oriented and that can be a good thing, but when you are stressing yourself out the week before the wedding about the flavor of frosting on the cake, or having the perfect music playlist for the reception you just have to let it go. Trust that your guests are there for you, not there expecting the best party of their life.
Ceremony& Reception: Burton Century Village
Alicia Wines Photography