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Essential Wedding Stationery Wording Tips

Wording your wedding stationery does not have to be burdensome! At Love vs Design we want to get you excited for creating your wedding invitation suite and help you along the way. Follow our wording guidelines and you will have a fun and easy time with the process of personalizing your wedding stationery. Keep in mind that while there is a proper and formal etiquette for wedding invitations, sometimes it's OK to bend the rules a little, especially with some of our more unique and modern designs. Read on to find everything you will need to know about wording your wedding stationery. We've broken down each component of the invitation set as well, to guide you to learn what your invitation should consist of.

invitation wording example


Your wedding invitation is broken down into 6-7 lines: host line, request line, bride and groom, date and time, location, reception and attire (optional).

Host Line

The host line includes the names of those sending out and/or hosting the wedding. Traditionally the bride’s parents host the wedding; however, nowadays it’s common for the wedding to be hosted by the groom’s parents, both sets of parents, or even the bride and groom. When writing this line, be sure to use the hosts' full names. 

Request Line

There are two phrases that are most used: one indicates a religious ceremony and the other does not.
• At a place of worship: Request the honor of your presence
• Catholic Mass: Request the honor of your presence at the Nuptial Mass uniting…
• Other Venus: Request the honor of your company

Bride and Groom Line

The couple should be the stars of the invitation. Place the names on a separate line, linking them together with “to” or “and” respectively, and using full names: first, middle, and last. The bride's name should precede the groom's name. Traditionally, if the bride’s parents are included on the invitations and she shares the same last name then only her first and middle name are used. This same rule follows for the groom.

• The Bride’s parents are hosting
Mr. and Mrs. John Brown
Request the pleasure of your company at the marriage of their daughter
Emily Mae to Kevin Noah Jones

Visit our Stationery Etiquette page for more examples on wedding invitation wording.

Date and Time Line

The date should both be written out in full and include the day of the week, date, month and year. When writing the year, this should be placed on a separate line with the option  to include the word “and” (i.e. Two thousand fourteen or Two thousand and fourteen)

• Saturday, the second of June
   Two thousand fourteen

The time should also be written in full and include "o'clock" after the written time. For a more formal approach use the phrase "in the morning", "in the afternoon", or "in the evening" instead of a.m. or p.m. Any time before 12 p.m. is considered morning, between 12 p.m. and 6 p.m. is afternoon and any time after 6 p.m. is evening.
If your wedding begins on the half-hour include a hyphen in the time or for a more formal way use "half past" or "half after" then write the time. 

• four o’clock in the afternoon
• half past four in the afternoon
• four-thirty in the afternoon

Location Line

For the location line include the name of the venue, and address. The address should not use abbreviations, rather it should be written in full.
If the address number is smaller than 20, then it should be written out. Also, no punctuation is needed other than a comma between the city and state (which is spelled out). Lastly, zip codes should not be included on any part of the invitation set.

• St. → Street
• Blvd. → Boulevard
• Apt. → Apartment
• P.O. Box → Post Office Box
• Central Library
   700 Boylston Street
   Boston, Massachusetts

Reception Line

If your wedding ceremony and reception are being held in the same location, include a line at the bottom of your invitation informing your guests.
If the reception is going to be at different venue, this should be treated as a separate event with details provided on a reception card.
Wording examples of receptions being held in the same venue after the ceremony are:

• Reception to follow
• Dinner and dancing to follow
• Reception immediately following the ceremony

Attire Line (optional)

To advise your guests what should be worn to your ceremony, you can include the optional attire line. This line should be placed at the bottom right hand corner of your invitations. If your wedding is taking place on a lawn or at a beach, it is nice to inform your guests of the elements such as wearing appropriate shoes.
Some commonly used phrases are:

• Black Tie
• Cocktail Attire
• Casual Attire
• Semi-Formal Attire


Punctuation can be used within the line for dates, time and addresses; However, commas, periods, colons, etc. should not be placed at the end of lines.


Wording such as Names, States and streets should be spelled out in its entirety on invitations, response cards, enclosure cards and envelopes.
Exceptions to this rule are:

• St. or Sts. = Saint or Saints
• Mr., Mrs., Ms., Dr.
• Jr., and Sr. – separated from the last name by a comma

Response Cards

A response card will include the date to RSVP by as well as a line for your guests to write their names, and section to check if they can attend or not. For those hosting dinner, you may also need to place a section for Meal Requests/Dietary restrictions

• Happily accepts/ Sadly regrets
• Will be there/ Will be there in spirit
• Accepts with pleasure/ Declines with regrets

Tip: Be sure to have your response card envelope, pre-addressed and stamped for a quick reply.


Ensure that you match the wording of your enclosure cards, with the wording of you wedding invitations to keep all pieces consistent.
Enclosure cards will provide your guest with additional wedding day details, including, transportation, accommodations, directions, reception, other wedding events.


When addressing your guests envelopes use titles and full names. It is important to double check your guest list to make sure names are spelled correctly. Common examples of addressing envelopes:

• To a Married Couple:
   Mr. Patrick and Mrs. Samantha Howard

• To an Unmarried Couple Living Together :
   Mr. Patrick Howard
   Mrs. Samantha Williams

• To Those with Other Distinguished Titles:
   Judge Howard and Lieutenant Howard, U.S. Navy
   Dr. Patrick Howard and Mrs. Samantha Howard

• To Children and Families:
   Mr. and Mrs. Patrick Howard
   Jacob, Brad, Kylie
   (Note: If you do not include the child’s names you are implying that children are not invited.)

Be sure to stay consistent  throughout the invitations set, if dates and times are spelled out on invitations use the same format on your enclosures cards as well. For more examples, for ways to word your wedding stationery, please visit our stationery etiquette page for formal and nontraditional wording. You’ll be sure to find something that best fits your style and taste.

Event Planner Spotlight: Lauren Wells Events | New England

Lauren Wells Events

We are thrilled to introduce New England Based (and Beyond) event planner Lauren Wells, of Lauren Wells Events. We were lucky to meet Lauren a few years ago while we worked with her on her own wedding stationery. Lauren is not only a joy to work with but is full of energy and creative ideas. From photo shoots to event designs to weddings, any lucky person or couple who works with Lauren and her team will be in awe as they help bring your details to life.

Find out more from this wonderful event planner in our Q&A with her and enjoy getting to know a little more about Lauren Wells Events!

Rustic Wedding

How did you get your start in wedding planning?

While planning our own wedding in 2012, I fell in love with the entire process. Having 6 years of experience in client management/media planning in the ad agency world, much of my professional experience still proved useful, with the addition of an amazing creative outlet.

What types of locations or settings are very popular now?

In New England, there is definitely a trend towards the more rustic, barn and camp type venues, although the beach will never go out of style here. Boston has great potential for really neat, brick and beam industrial spaces, and I would love to see a push towards more of those!

bridal shower
table decor

What are your favorite color combos?

On a personal level, I am drawn to neutrals and soft grays. Clean, with lots of light. On an event level, I love playing with color, and really can't pick a favorite combo!

What are some wedding details you “insist” couples include or try to avoid in their wedding?

I insist on meaningful details - I try to understand which details will truly highlight the couple and bring smiles to each of their guests, and really mean something. In terms of details I try to avoid, that is a trick question! There can never be too much attention to detail.

Is there a wedding favor you’ve seen that’s been your favorite?

I am going to sound incredibly biased, but I would have to say the favors my husband created for his groomsmen. He handmade survival kits out of cedar, with a hatchet, matches and engraved lighter inside.

groomsmen favor

What is one detail you cherish at a wedding?

The moment the ceremony starts, the excitement is silent and palpable, and the bride begins to walk towards her groom - my heart literally melts, and I cry every time.

What is the most important thing you tell brides?

Relax, and have fun. Remember what it is all about: you and the love of your life, celebrating this incredible relationship you have built with one another. The second you lose sight of that, and begin to focus more on Pinterest than the person sitting beside you, you are in it for all the wrong reasons.

Up Anniversary

When someone is looking for a planner, what are some good questions to ask at the meeting?

I think it is important to ask personal questions, to see if you connect with the planner. You don't have to be best friends with whomever you hire, but you do want to like that person enough that you are excited to spend the biggest weekend of your life with them. I would definitely ask to see past client reviews, as well as past events. I would also ask for an understanding of the entire process, and how things generally work. More than anything, I would recommend you ask whatever questions you may have - that is what we are here for!

Your Top tips for brides and grooms planning their wedding?

Focus in on what is most important to you, in order, and prioritize those wants. Budgets are real, and they matter, so having a list of what means the most to you will make it easier to stick within that budget and still have the perfect day.

Lauren Wells Events Team

Photography by: Cambria Grace Photography | Our Labor of Love

Rain Blessed Wedding

mountain view

Today’s real wedding features Jenn and Paolo, who were married on the beautiful island of Oahu, Hawaii. Having each moment captured by their photographers, One Love Photo, this couple showed us what the day is truly about, even when some unexpected moments arise. Read more from the Bride about the vision for their special day and experience their moments in a tropical paradise filled with splendor, family and fun.

wedding dress

Jenn tells us about their choice in venue: "We had a few hiccups with our location. Originally, we were planning on a church wedding with the reception somewhere else (that's actually what is printed on our invitations) but we made some last minute changes (thank goodness for RSVP websites) and ended up having the ceremony and the reception at the Dillingham Ranch. It's a beautiful venue that has a lot of charm and it was perfect for us because we didn't have to do anything to make it gorgeous. We left the property do all of the wooing and it worked!"

before seeing each other
first look
beach walk

Our ceremony was really special to the both of us. It was full of so much love, a few surprises and lots of happy tears. Our best friend officiated the ceremony for us, my uncle opened up with a prayer and a blessing, my dad surprised us with an amazing song that he performed with people from both of our families and we wrote our own vows. It was really important for us to be authentic to ourselves as individuals but to also honor and respect the love we have for one another and for our family and friends.

brides entrance
surprise song
tears of joy

What advice can you offer to couples who are currently in the planning stage of their wedding? "Do what works best for the both of you. It's hard to really strip things down and try to figure out what you want, when everyone has an opinion, but honestly do what works best for the both of you. I got caught up in things (menus, seating charts, signs, straws, etc) and at the end of the day none of that was actually important to us but it was still hard to let go of the idea of what I thought I wanted for the wedding. Stay true to your love and do what makes you happy."

cake cutting

The biggest highlight of the day for the couple was their first dance in the rain. They tell us, "We pushed back and held our own about not renting a tent for the day and I know that it gave a lot of people anxiety but it was hands down the best decision we made about rentals because it resulted in the most magical moment, ever."

first dance
The Minimalist Invitation

Photography by: Heather & Jon Almeda / One Love Photo / | Wedding Venue: Dillingham Ranch, Hawaii | Wedding Invitation: The Minimalist | Floral Design: Marie Blooms | Wedding Dress: Dress Theory, Seattle | Catering: Island Lu’au | Rentals: Hawaii Tents & Events |DJ: Mobile DJ Services | Lawn Games: Ever After Events

How to assemble your Wedding Invitations

Congratulations, you’ve completed designing your wedding invitations! Now it’s time to get to work at assembling and addressing envelopes. Be sure to give yourself plenty of time as the invitations should be mailed out 6-8 weeks prior to your wedding date. With all the details you may need to provide your guests, there may be a few inserts that you have included in the set. To ensure that you present your invitations to family and friends properly, we’ve outlined the traditional rule of thumb to help you in assembling your wedding invitations.

Assembled Invitation components

1. The wedding invitation should be placed at the bottom, facing right side up when pulled out of the envelope.

2. On top of the invitation should be your wedding invitation components, also facing right side up, and placed from largest to smallest. These cards can be placed on top of the Invitation as follows:

  • Reception/Details Enclosure Card
  • Accommodations Enclosure Card
  • Maps/Directions Enclosure Card
  • Response Card: place the response card underneath the flap of the return envelope. Note that the envelope should already have a stamped and be pre-addressed with the mailing address of whomever will be receiving these cards.

3. Once all pieces are gathered, complete the look by wrapping a belly band around your stationery. Our belly bands can be easily secured with the use of double-sided tape.

4. Lastly, insert your wedding stationery into the envelope, facing you right side up so this is the first thing your guests see when opening the envelope.

completed invitation

Additional helpful tips:

  • Before purchasing postage, prepare one completed invitation and bring to your local postage to ensure the correct postage for the envelope.
  • Mark your response cards with a number and match the number to your guest list. This will help keep you organized when you receive the cards, as some guests forget to put their names on the card. Review our blog on How to get your guests to RSVP for helpful tips on how to organize your guest response cards.
  • The envelopes should be hand addressed, printed or written in calligraphy. These are to be addressed using proper titles, nicknames and abbreviations are not recommended. Visit our blog on how to address your wedding invitations for more.

DIY Ranch Wedding on Style Me Pretty

We are excited to share this Real Wedding of Brittany & Aaron, a lovely couple whom we were happy to work with on their wedding day stationery. They were recently featured on Style Me Pretty, which highlights their beautiful wedding day photos and video. Visit Style Me Pretty for more photos taken by our friends Studio Castillero.

Brittany and Aaron choose our Just My Type Wedding Invitation & Response Card for their wedding stationery.


Heart in Hand Romantic Wedding

We are excited to share some wedding day photos of a couple we were lucky to work with. As Hannah and John's wedding day stationer, it was great to see how the couples Heart and Hand Wedding Invitation tied in perfectly to their special day. Photos taken by our friends, Studio Castillero, captured how intimate and whimsical the day was for the couple's beautiful union. To read more on Hannah and John’s inspiration for their wedding day check out their story on Green Wedding Shoes.

the bride
mr and mrs
table setting
wedding cake
heart in hand invitation

What to include in your wedding invitations

Your wedding stationery is the first impression of your marriage celebration. Finding the perfect stationery that fits your theme and style will set the tone for your special day. There are many key components that are included into your wedding invitations so as to provide your guests with all the wedding day details. Below we have broken down the components of what should be included in your wedding invitation suite.

Invitation components

Outer Envelope
Enclosed in the outer envelope are the optional inner envelope, the main wedding invitation, response card, and any enclosure cards you may have. Written on the outside of this envelope is the formal name and address of your invited guests and the mailing stamp is placed on the upper right hand corner. The return address can be included on the back flap of the envelope.

Belly Band
Belly Bands are a great way to complete the look of your wedding package by tying in your wedding stationery together and can be used in place of the Inner Envelope. The use of a Belly Band will help secure your inserts together presenting the suite nicely to your guests upon receiving your invitations.

The main part of the wedding stationery, which provides the general information of who is hosting, who is getting married, the date, time and location of the ceremony.

Response Card
In order to know how many guests will be coming, a response card allows your friends and family to reply back with their attendance of the wedding. Whether you choose to send a card or postcard, be sure to have the envelope or postcard already stamped and addressed to whomever is in charge of the RSVPs, before placing them into the invitation set.

Enclosure Cards
There are many types of enclosure cards that you may provide your guest to give additional wedding day details. Other details may also be included on this card such as specific attire, alternate location and website information as well. Listed below are some popular uses for an enclosure card.

Reception card: If you plan on having your wedding ceremony and reception at two different locations, adding a reception enclosure card will help direct your guests after the ceremony with the venue name and address.

Accommodation Card: It is thoughtful to include an accommodations card with affordable nearby hotels for your out of town guests. Many couples may even have a specific hotel where they are holding a group rate. Be sure to include the name of the hotel, address, phone number, website and the established a rate code for your guests.

Directions and Transportation Card: This enclosure card can include a map and/or written directions to the ceremony and reception. If local transportation is available you can provide this information such as parking, public transit lines, and airlines.

Additional Wedding Events Card: If you plan on having other weekend activities for your guests to enjoy, including a weekend events enclosure card is the perfect way to provide these details. This card can provide guests with a schedule of events such as the arrival welcome dinner/reception, golfing with the groom or even the post-wedding brunch.

Be sure to browse through our variety of Wedding Invitations, Response cards, and Enclosure cards. If your not sure on how to word any of components of your wedding package, check out our wedding stationery etiquette guide and as always contact us, if you have any questions, we are happy to help!

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Prairie Home Wedding

”Being surrounded by the people who love and support us was the ultimate gift that made the day so memorable.” – Aimee & Christopher


Our Real Wedding Bride and Groom, Aimee and Christopher, share their special day in Alberta, Canada, at the home of the Bride's family. When planning their wedding, their inspiration grew from the location not only because of the beauty and the simplicity the prairie held, but because this is also the same place the couple met and formed memories. The bride tells us “The rustic, handmade whimsy of the theme seemed to go hand in hand with our personalities, and the surroundings.”


The ceremony was on a scenic hill overlooking the Red Deer River, where guests sat on straw bales overlooking the river valley, and witnessed the couple take their wedding vows. Aimee tells us "Our ceremony turned our to be more beautiful than we could have imagined. Because we had an outdoor ceremony, we hired accordion player, Penny Sanborn (from Calgary, AB) to serenade guests, and accompany hymns. It was absolutely beautiful."

Afterwards a cocktail reception was held in a tent placed in the yard of the Bride's Parents. With the Groom being from Australia and Bride from Canada, the couple chose a cocktail style reception with no formal seating to ensure their friends from both sides got the best opportunity to meet and mingle. This provided a very relaxed, warm, and inviting party; which progressed into an awesome night of merriment!


Aimee’s advice to couples who are preparing for their special day: “Embrace the things that go unexpectedly, it makes for some pretty great memories.”


Wedding Venue: Broadview Ranch | Photography by: Rachel Boekel


Bride & Groom chose our Rustic Country Wedding Invitation for their wedding stationery.

Love vs Design wins 2014 Wedding Wire Award!

We are super excited to win the Couple's Choice Awards by Wedding Wire for the 3rd year in a row! WeddingWire Couples' Choice Awards™ recipients represent the top five percent of wedding professionals within the WeddingWire Network who demonstrate excellence in quality, service, responsiveness and professionalism.

We are proud of offering exceptional customer service and are always excited to read Love vs Design reviews. Here are a few examples of what our customers from around the world are saying:

Live and Love Invitation - January 2014

I just wanted to let you know that our invites & RSVP cards showed up in record time, totally unscathed and very beautiful! We are thrilled. We haven't sent them out just yet but those who have seen them are very impressed. Thanks very much - it has been great working with you and your customer service is fab. - Stephanie

High Seas Belly Band - January 2014

Friendly and efficient staff, product was cost effective and high quality. - Jean

Deco Glam Invitation - January 2014

Thanks for making this such a seamless process. - Alexis

Rustic Country Engagement Party - January 2014

Many thanks for all your help and patience during the design process :) really appreciate it. - Petra

Simple Seal Save the Date - January 2014

We received our save the dates and just love them!! We look forward to ordering our invitations from you guys as well. - Ali

Just Between Us Thank You Postcard - January 2014

Received our engagement thank-you postcards in the mail last week here in AUSTRALIA! They look fabulous! Shipping was super fast and the whole process was very easy and efficient! Thank you so much, can't wait to get them all written and posted out!! Feel like we should be sending one back to you! - Aimee

Read more feedback in our customer reviews section. If you have any feedback about our products or website, we would love to hear from you!

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